Reconnecting with past friends will allow you to see the world in a new light. It will show you how funny and weird life can really be. You were a part of their lives at one point and they a part of yours. Life seems to become more complicated and more difficult with age. To lose sight of the dreams we once had and the people we hoped to one day become. Life may not have been simpler back then, but to us it was. We had a simpler way of thinking — more black and white, with much fewer greys.
Getting in touch with your old friends will remind you of the person you used to be. Maybe you lost track. The older we get, the more independent we become. Frankly, the older we get, the less we need friends. I would love to see them, but is it possible to salvage lapsed friendships when they have been dormant for a year — or several years?
I hope so, because I have a wedding present that I would like to give a friend before her third anniversary. There are all sorts of obstacles to keeping friendships active, according to Gillian Butler, a fellow of the British Psychological Society. She rattles off family commitments, work, geographical distance and major life changes.
Unfortunately, those feelings often overpower our desire to reach out. But if you would like to rekindle a lost friendship, why not seize the moment?
I will try if you try. Butler suggests beginning with a broad mind. I agreed, and we had a wonderful time. I have had many friends. Some lasted, and some did not. There are seasons and reasons for friendships. Sometimes you have friends simply because of proximity and common similarities i. Once that phase of your life is over, you fall out of touch because you no longer share that common similarity.
Be okay with that. Every person is not meant to travel throughout life with you. Be grateful and appreciative of the time you spent together and move forward. Sometimes you have to see the good in goodbye. Know that goodbye is a gift because it allows you to say hello to new experiences and people. Ignore all the stories in your head about people not caring, being too busy, or not wanting to reconnect with you before you even try.
The majority of people will be happy that you reached out to them and want to reconnect. A few years ago, a good friend and I grew apart. I sincerely apologized, told her I missed her and asked if she could forgive me? This is all because I simply reached out to an old friend and who I wanted to reconnect with and genuinely missed. You must try. Be open and honest with them and really get into what went wrong… like address the issues and go from there.
Most friendships can be saved or rekindled by a simple conversation. Approach it as organically as possible starting with pleasantries and being genuinely interested in whatever their state of life is now. Say what you feel and let it go from there.
Do not force it. Allow things to organically happen. Hi, everyone! I am Sanhita Mukherjee. Reading is my go-to way of unwinding after a long day, and I usually have a book or three in my bag at all times. So you've realized just how difficult your 20s are. Well, you've come to the right place! Let's figure this whole life thing out together. Your email address will not be published. Aww…Friends are like family to me and you have shared a post about them.
I just love this Post. And I must say your writing is just next level. After reading the article I would say to my lost friends that Thanks for always being everything a friend should be. Ask Amanda: How do I stop being jealous in my relationship?
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